Every chance encounter represents an opportunity to show your caring side for building meaningful relationships.

What can you do today to make someone else feel better, feel appreciated, feel worthy and of value to you?

You may meet a cashier at the checkout counter or meet the hiring manager for the desired job. You may meet someone who 3 years later introduces you to his next-door neighbor, who 2 years later becomes your wife... that's my story!

In my work with high school and college-age students, all of whom want to be chosen, selected, or accepted for something, every encounter is an interview of sorts. It may not be the old-style, one-sided interview of years past, but it's still an interview if you're savvy enough to capitalize on it.

There are 3 Steps to getting this done and building valued relationships for doing so.

# 1- Validate Yourself; this is accomplished in the style of your greeting with eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, and genuine interest (must be genuine).

When meeting admission counselors, you will be asked-
How are you doing? 

A validating response may go like this-
I'm doing great! It's awesome to be standing here on this fabulous college campus and meeting with you.

# 2- Establish Your Credentials; this is accomplished at the moment you have the chance to establish that you belong there, that there's a credible purpose for you being there in the moment.

You might say something like this-
"I've worked hard to earn my __ GPA and __ SAT score."

If it fits the school standards for acceptance, then you've established your belonging.
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These first two steps are easy. They just take a little practice. It's Step 3 that's the difference-maker, the game-changer, the winning play! It's also the one that's missed by most people.

# 3- Validate Them; these are all the things you can do to make them feel important and of value to you. It is accomplished in your selective use of statements to them and appropriate questions of them. It's in making the outcome feel more about them than about yourself.

You might ask-
"Why do you do this work?"
"What is your biggest challenge in doing your job?"
"What do you look for in desired applicants?"

You may say-
"Your job serves a great purpose here."
"I appreciate you taking the time to meet with me today!"
"Your acceptance is very important to me!"

Here's the defining line. When everyone else is saying "My acceptance...", you're saying "Your acceptance..." It makes them feel important to you. It's the game-changer!

Friends, life is much better when we validate others, all others regardless of their status. Recognizing others in every encounter and making them feel appreciated is a daily choice and therefore, it can become a worthy habit. 

Thank you, I appreciate you!

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